How humiliating. I return home from a week away, expecting my pristine kitchen counters to be full of HIS stuff. Walking into the kitchen I was almost blinded by the sun's rays reflected from those bare countertops. Hmmm, walking around the house I could see that everything was just as I left it. Hmmm, no mess anywhere that wasn't of my own creation prior to leaving for my solo trip.
Re-reading Sink Reflections by Marla Cilley, I'm in the chapter about encouraging the family to get on board with de-cluttering and organizing. Her main point--stop whining and do more than you think is "your share." In fact, do it all if you have to. The family is often so confused by the stop-starts of our de-cluttering that they don't know what to do to help.
So, if I keep my clutter zones clear then they will stay clear. I don't have to worry about my dear husband messing anything up and my kids are grown and living away from home. It's a little freeing to eliminate the thought that someone else is causing the mess and a little empowering to know that the solution lies within.
I can start using Marla Cilley's idea of working on "Hot Spots" twice a day for 5 minutes each session. I really have one main Hot Spot, the large penisula counter in the kitchen, and 10 minutes total per day seems a small price to have it looking better.